I am a black woman working in the boy’s club of comedy. I didn’t change my name when I got married, my finances are separate, and I plan on never having children. And yet, I’ve never referred to myself as a feminist. In fact, I go out of my way to avoid using the term. There’s a reason for that.
My Lack of Feminism Confuses A Lot of People
Nathalie, you’re not a feminist?! Are you saying you don’t believe in equality of the sexes?
Of course, I do sucka! I’m not a freakin’ neanderthal. Plus, I have a vagina.
What I don’t believe in – is still having a special term for supporting equality between men and women. It’s 2017, that should just be called – being human. Think that men are superior? That’s called being an asshole. (Or sexist, but I prefer asshole.)
Don’t Get It Twisted!
I’m very aware of how important the term ‘feminist’ is as well as the centuries of women who had to fight for me to be allowed to feel the way I do. Not to mention all the cute bras that were burned along the way. I respect the hell out of pioneers in the Women’s Rights Movement. Just as I respect my sisters and brothers who march now, knitted pussy hats and all!
A Very Brief History of the Term ‘Feminist’
According to the internet (aka Feminist.com), the term “feminist” originated in France in the late 1800’s as “feminisme.” It was generally the same idea – equal political and legal rights.
The term was adopted by the Women’s Suffrage Movement in the early 1900’s. You might remember them. They wanted to vote on shit and be allowed to write a will?
In the 60’s and 70’s, a new wave of feminism began when women decided they were tired of shitty paychecks, shaving, and getting their asses grabbed in the office.
Today the term is used because the struggle continues. There are still dinosaurs around the world holding onto their ignorance like it’s thirty cents on the dollar. (They’re probably holding onto their own dicks as well, because nobody else should be.)
Obviously, they’re wrong. That’s been proven time and time again. Women are strong, intelligent, creative, FUNNY, innovative and essential. We multitask, problem solve, empathize, and take care of fucking business. We juggle work, play, relationships, children, spanx, wine bottles, and dealing with men’s bullshit. And we do it all while looking as cute as we want to look. O-kaaay!
The F Word
Why would I ever need to put a special label on my value as a human being when it’s so obvious?
It feels hella redundant. So I don’t. Put a special label on the idiots who are living in the dark ages – like racists, homophobes, and people who still wear Crocs. I’m not a feminist. I’m a human being who just so happens to be a badass chick. Equality implied.
In fact — screw equality! Women are better. If we weren’t men wouldn’t be so desperate to oppress us. Haters.